Home Sweet Home
By
Karmayogi
Leaving his office, a man has developed the
habit of going to the park where he stays till 9 p.m. before returning home.
This he does to avoid spending any time with his wife. He says his sweet home
has become bitter. Another man who has no quarrel with his wife or mother
dreads home, as he has to listen to endless stories of their internecine
quarrels. There is one simple solution for sometime. There is a vine with
flowers called HARMONY – (botanical name: antigonon, common name: Coral
Vine) – with pink coloured small bulbs found everywhere. People can make it a
point of bringing a bunch of it every day and keeping it at home. Quarrels will
disappear. The lasting solution is to work on their own unstable temperament to
find a desirable psychological equilibrium.
A wife sharply abused her
husband in the presence of a guest to which he replied, “My dear, you are truly
a remarkable woman” and smiled pleasantly. By taking an irrational attitude of
entirely adoring the wife's unpardonable behaviour, he dissolved the seeds of
contention. The same results can be positively achieved in the same situation
by rising to the heights of his manliness and deciding NOT to contribute to
irrational behaviour. If he ever succeeds in doing so, that will be last
occasion for her outburst and there is a chance of her regretting her own
behaviour, whereas in the former case the husband's docility may fuel her
temperament.
To put up with another's refractory behaviour is excellent
manners; not to be disturbed inwardly by such behaviour is a noble expression of
character; to be able to smile at another's lack of culture is strength of
personality, all of which will yield good, desirable, social GOOD of
domestic peace each at its own level. To conceive the other person's substandard
behaviour as a true reflection of what one is inside is a spiritual realisation
of rare strength. By invoking the Spirit from such an inner poise, one will be
uplifted into Peace that is Shanthi, which will abide with him
forever.